And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided…(3:103)

Safeguard Your Offspring against Temptations

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وَلَـمَّا تَوَجَّهَ تِلْقَآءَ مَدْيَنَ قَالَ عَسٰى رَبِّىْۤ اَنْ يَّهْدِيَنِىْ سَوَآءَ السَّبِيْلِ (22) وَلَـمَّا وَرَدَ مَآءَ مَدْيَنَ وَجَدَ عَلَيْهِ اُمَّةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ يَسْقُوْنَ وَوَجَدَ مِنْ دُوْنِهِمُ امْرَاَتَيْنِ تَذُوْدٰنِ قَالَ مَا خَطْبُكُمَا قَالَـتَا لَا نَسْقِىْ حَتّٰى يُصْدِرَ الرِّعَآءُ؄ وَاَبُوْنَا شَيْخٌ كَبِيْرٌ (23) فَسَقٰى لَهُمَا ثُمَّ تَوَلّٰٓى اِلَى الظِّلِّ فَقَالَ رَبِّ اِنِّىْ لِمَاۤ اَنْزَلْتَ اِلَىَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيْرٌ (24) فَجَآءَتْهُ اِحْدٰہُمَا تَمْشِىْ عَلَى اسْتِحْيَآءٍ قَالَتْ اِنَّ اَبِىْ يَدْعُوْكَ لِيَجْزِيَكَ اَجْرَ مَا سَقَيْتَ لَـنَا فَلَمَّا جَآءَهٗ وَقَصَّ عَلَيْهِ الْقَصَصَ قَالَ لَا تَخَفْ نَجَوْتَ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظّٰلِمِيْنَ (25) قَالَتْ اِحْدٰہُمَا يٰۤاَبَتِ اسْتَاْجِرْهُ اِنَّ خَيْرَ مَنِ اسْتَـاْجَرْتَ الْقَوِىُّ الْاَمِيْنُ (26) قَالَ اِنِّىْۤ اُرِيْدُ اَنْ اُنْكِحَكَ اِحْدَى ابْنَتَىَّ هٰتَيْنِ عَلٰٓى اَنْ تَاْجُرَنِىْ ثَمٰنِىَ حِجَجٍ فَاِنْ اَتْمَمْتَ عَشْرًا فَمِنْ عِنْدِكَ وَمَاۤ اُرِيْدُ اَنْ اَشُقَّ عَلَيْكَ سَتَجِدُنِىْۤ اِنْ شَآءَ اللّٰهُ مِنَ الصّٰلِحِيْنَ (27)


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Quran Surah:28 Ayah:22-27
  1. When he set out towards Madyan,he said, “I hope my Lord will guideme to the straight path.”23. And when he arrived at the watersof Madyan, he found a large numberof people watering (their animals) andfound, aloof from them, two womenkeeping (their animals) back. He said,“What is the matter with you?” Theysaid, “We cannot water (our animals) until these shepherds take (theiranimals) back after watering them, andour father is very old man.” 24. So he (Musa) watered (theiranimals) for them, then he turned to a

shade and said, “My Lord, I am inneed of whatever good you send downto me.” 25. Then one of the two women cameto him, walking bashfully. She said,“My father is calling you, so that hemay give you a reward for wateringour animals. So when he (Musa) cameto him (the father of the women) andnarrated to him the whole story, thelatter said, “Do not fear; you haveescaped from the wrongdoing people.” 26. One of the two women said, “Dearfather, hire him; the best man you canhire is someone who is strong,trustworthy.” 27. He (the father) said (to Musa), “Iwish to marry to you one of these twodaughters of mine on condition thatyou act as my employee for eight

years. Then if you complete ten(years) it will be of your own accord.

And I do not want to put you in anytrouble; you will find me, Insha’allah(God-willing) one of the righteous.” 28. He (Musa) said, “This is (done)between me and you. Whichever ofthe two terms I fulfill, there should beno excess against me, and Allah iswitness to what we are saying.”

In the verses appearing above, there has been described aadescription of a journey made by Hazrat Musa (A.S.) to Madyan. Through this event we come to know many aspects of Hazrat Musa’s personality such as his reliance in Allah, the Almighty and turning to Him in repentance, helping the weak and poor, his strength and trustworthiness and facing all types of hardships with remarkable fortitude and so on.

Similarly, a point of guidance we come to know through this event is that, if required, the women are allowed to come of their houses as two sisters had to go out for making animals drink water due to agedness of their father provided that they are mindful of their modesty as also pointed out through this event that both the sisters would come out being the embodiment of modesty and avoiding free-mixing with males. It was for this reason that they would go to make their animals drink water at the end. The same characteristic of their modesty has been pointed out through the words عَلَى اسْتِحْيَآءٍ.

HazratUmar (R.T.A.) is reported to have explained this phrase in this way: ‘They came with their faces covered under the veil rather than just those of fearless and careless women who wander and enter everywhere observing no veil.’

In fact, in the verses appearing above, there are also some points of guidance for women too which are worth-mentioning here as most of women generally do not take them into consideration. They are as follows:

  • Though the sons requested his father to employee Hazrat Musa (A.S.) as his servant but he resolved to marry his daughter to him. The question arises here is that why the father took such a decision?To my best knowledge, it was mainly due to safeguard her daughters against temptation. Since they were already matured and the one (Musa) too was young at that time and as a servant, a man is supposed to be a member of a family who has to spend enough time in the house and thus there was possible chances on their part to be involved in the temptation. Hence, marrying them was only the safest way to safeguard them against a temptation.

Without doubt, even these days, we have to face such types of incidents (as co-education and co-serving) in our day-to-day life. Are our parents really so sensitive and do they ever concerned about their children being involved in temptationand do their best to safeguard them against them or not to allow them to practice free-mixing or, if required, to think of some safest forms of it?

  • Another instruction for the parents in this event is that they should prefer piety when it comes to marry their children. They should marry their daughter only when they find some pious man. It really wrong to delay their daughter’s marriage only due to choose someone belonging to a family or caste of higher status. Though Hazrat Musa (R.T.A.) was really a strange one but the father married his daughter seeing only his piety.

In contrast to it, what we do is that we delay our daughter’s marriages only preferring other thingsto such extent that both the sons and daughters become subject to the temptationsallowing many social evils take place.

It is for this reason that the Holy Prophet ﷺsaid, “When your daughter is proposed for marriage by someone whom you like due to his piety and good conducts, you should marry her to him, or else, it will cause to create a great mischief on the face of the earth.” (Tirmizi)

At another place, the Holy Prophet ﷺ is reported to have said, “If a son get matured and his father does not marry him, as a result, he falls victim to any temptation, it will be his father who will be held responsible for it.” (Baihaqui)

Besides it, there is also another point of guidance in this event for the parents that they should not delay their daughter’s marriage if their daughters are proposed by some pious man rather they should propose before he tries to propose as known by the same event that the father of both the girls did on his behalf.

Even Hazrat Umar Bin Khattab (R.T.A.) did so with regard to his daughter, HazratHafsah (R.T.A.) when she was widowed that he himself sent a proposal of her marriage to Hazrat Abu BakrSiddique and Hazrat Uthman (R.T.A.).

  • The third point of guidance for the parents in this verse is that if the children suggest them something reasonable in worldly affairs, they should accept it wholeheartedly rather than making it an issue of pride and neglect them deeming them immature and inexperienced. In fact, in this regard, we have an ideal lesson in the event of Hazrat Musa (R.T.A.) that when the daughters suggested their father to employee Hazrat Musa (A.S.) as a servant, he accepted it with pleasure.

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